First, read about the need for domestic support if you have not done so already.
Even as roles in marriage become less determined by tradition, chances are that your wife still depends on you to a large degree to provide a safe and comfortable home for the family. This includes financial support and physical care and protection. She also needs you to work cheerfully together with her in cleaning and maintaining the home
Be the breadwinner
Even in these non-traditional modern times, many women are grateful that their husbands assume the role of providing for the family, and many more wish that their husbands would. A recent study has shown that American wives, at least, are typically happier when their husband earns 68% or more of the household income.1
Marriage is not about duplicating roles, but rather about dividing them in harmony. If your wife currently works to help support the family financially, discuss the issue with her. Even if it means a lower standard of living, she may prefer to give up work to have more time for other roles. Do what you need to achieve your needed income, but don't overdo it. A husband who spends all of his time at work is not what she needs.
Help with the cooking and cleaning
Keeping a hands off attitude toward housework may make you look macho to your friends, but it won't get you very far in your marital romance. If in doubt, try it both ways, and see which gives desired results. Chances are that a woman who isn't exhausted at the end of the day, and who feels a certain amount of appreciation for and closeness to her husband, will be a more pleasant and affectionate companion when the housework is finally done. Helping with the laundry, dishes, and floors is also superior to television-watching in providing mental and physical exercise and basic peace of mind. You will then be able to relax in a clean house with a woman who has a smile on her face and gratitude in her heart.
Make and keep a budget together
No matter how much or little your income, you make choices regarding how some of it is spent. A budget is a plan, a set of priorities, that enables you to spend your money on what you decide you really want, rather than blowing it on impulsive purchases. The essence of a budget is long-term planning that will enable you to live within your means and work toward financial goals.
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