Romance exists in your marriage when you both are attracted to each other (or desire each other) and care for each other. The combination of attraction and compassion creates the feeling of being "in love" with your mate.

If you want to increase romance in marriage, you must create mutual feelings of caring and attraction. You can do this by meeting your spouse's most important relationship needs and helping him or her to meet yours.

Become the man or woman of your spouse's dreams by meeting his or her 7 basic relationship needs:

1. Respect
2. Appreciation
3. Companionship
4. Spiritual Solidarity
5. Domestic Support
6. To Feel Cherished
7. Sensuous Affection

Like a tender plant, your mate's romantic nature can fully blossom only in a nurturing environment. You are the gardener. Learn how to cultivate your spouse's romantic nature by visiting the garden of romance and smart talk pages. Then learn some specific ways to help your spouse better meet your 7 basic relationship needs.

If you need a little help getting started, try the tools for men or tools for women.