Use positive reinforcement
Frequently express your sincere appreciation for the things that he does in this area. Be grateful for the efforts he makes to be the breadwinner. Don't undermine his efforts by being critical of what he does when he helps with chores around the house.
Talk about it
Domestic support may mean something different to him than it does to you. Find an opportunity to discuss this subject lovingly and patiently with him. Be honest about where you would like to concentrate your time and efforts, at home or in the workplace and how much of each. If you need him to help more with domestics responsibilities, talk together about which chores would mean the most to you for him to take over and listen to his preferences on what he'd like to be in charge of. Decide together which areas you want to focus on to make your home as pleasant as possible for you both.
Make and keep a budget together
You and your mate need to both be involved in deciding where and how your money is spent so that both of you feel a sense of control and a sense of responsibility. This can help smooth some of the financial tension that every couple experiences at least occasionally.
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