Husband's Relationship Needs

RESPECT
__Am I polite?
__Do I use a respectful tone of voice and respectful words when I speak to him?
__Do I treat him as I would want to be treated?
__Do I show him at least as much respect as I would a coworker, boss, or other important person?
__Do I interpret his words charitably when he says something that could be interpreted negatively?
__Do I look for the good in him and see the cup as half full rather than half empty?
__Do I keep sensitive areas of our relationship confidential?
__Do I use "smart talk" principles when we have a disagreement?
__Do I avoid speaking sarcastically or sharply to him?
__Do I let him know how much I respect and value him?
__Am I honest with him and respectful of his feelings?
__Am I emotionally faithful to him?
__Do I dress attractively and use good posture when I am with him?
__Do I take good care of my body and keep myself in good physical condition?

APPRECIATION
__Do I express abundant and sincere gratitude for the many big and little things he does?
__Do I express appreciation for him with visual and physical affection?
__Do I appreciate his financial contributions, even though we never seem to have enough?

COMPANIONSHIP
__Do I spend time with him in conversation and recreational activities?
__Do I make a habit of being optimistic and cheerful when I am with him?
__Am I a pleasant friend to him?
__Do I avoid complaining, sarcasm, and speaking in a tired or negative manner?
__Do we have hobbies that we enjoy together?
__Do I spend as much time listening as speaking when we are together?
__Do I make an effort to talk about things that interest him?
__Do I find ways to make him laugh?

SPIRITUAL SOLIDARITY
__Do I try to understand his values and support him in them, rather than undermining them?
__Do I seek truth and goodness together with him?
__Do I work with him in learning better ways to parent the children?
__Do we pray together?
__Do I pray for his safety, success and happiness?

DOMESTIC SUPPORT
__Do I keep a budget together with him, and avoid overspending?
__Do I work to keep a clean and comfortable home?

TO FEEL CHERISHED
__Do I make him my highest priority, above friends, work, hobbies, and children?
__Am I absolutely faithful to our marriage? Is my heart all his?
__Do I care tenderly for him, and try to help him feel safe and loved?
__Do I focus on the good in him despite his flaws?
__Am I cheerful with him, and avoid "holding love hostage?"
__Do I rejoice with him in his successes?
__Do I give him plenty of attention?
__Do I surprise him with extra physical attention occasionally?
__Do I listen to him with my heart?

SENSUOUS AFFECTION
__Do I give him sensuous affection in ways that he can understand and appreciate?
__Do I speak in pleasant tones?
__Do I practice good hygiene?
__Do I keep myself physically fit and attractive?
__Do I make special attempts to please him?
__Do I seek and receive sensuous affection only from him?
__Do I smile warmly and often at him?
__Do I use a pleasant voice?
__Do I practice good posture and walk gracefully?
__Do I occasionally use makeup in a way that he finds attractive?
__Do I let him advise me on my wardrobe?
__Do I keep myself young?
__Do I keep his view of my body special?
__Do I flirt with him?
__Do I give him plenty of sexual affection?