Help Your Husband to Be a Pleasant Companion
Use positive reinforcement
When he spends time with you doing things you enjoy, whether it is shopping, talking or running, thank him, and tell him how important it is to you.
Be cheerful
To a man, a frown on a woman’s face is a signal to stay away. If you want his company, be pleasant. If you want to be able to hold a conversation with him, keep it positive. Don’t complain. There is a fine line between expressing frustration about things that have happened to you during the day, and complaining. The former is occasionally okay. The latter will make him feel unloved.
Don’t punish him for talking
If your husband isn’t as much of a conversationalist as he used to be, it may be because he has learned that talking to you is a high-risk activity. Do you sometimes react to his comments with a look or tone of voice that says you are angry, frustrated, or annoyed with him. If so, try to imagine how he feels at these times. A man will keep quiet if he thinks it will help him avoid being the object of criticism or anger.
Be pretty
Men love to talk to a pretty woman. Even if it is a small effort, such as brushing your hair before you go to bed, or wearing colors that he likes on you, keep in mind that part of his enjoyment of your company is your feminine beauty. Take advantage of the magnetism you naturally have as his lover to keep him interested in being with you and talking to you.
Talk his line
Don’t monopolize the conversation. Talk about something that interests him. Make conversation a positive experience for him. If you do, he will spend more time at it, become more skilled, and gradually become more willing to talk about things that may matter more to you.
Be a pleasant companion for him
If you spend time with him doing some things that he enjoys, he will find it easier to spend time with you doing things that you enjoy. Better yet, find some things that you both enjoy, and spend more time enjoying them as a couple. Find or develop with him a long list of recreational activities. Make a short list of ten that you enjoy or would like to try, and have him do the same. Check your lists to see if you have an interest in common and pursue it together. If your lists are completely different, trade lists and each of you choose a recreational activity from the other’s list. Pursue these two hobbies during your time together.
my husband thanked me for being his companion…….
no sex in marriage…we are bot in our late 70 and early 80….hope do I cope??? I feel self satisfaction is against GOD……how can I get him to come around? I knew when I married him five years ago I knew of his ed problem but he has gotten worse over the years…………..